I have a question. Have you ever felt that my message is sexist? I received a comment accusing me of being misogynistic. I specifically pay attention when I talk about gender – because Sashiko is largely affected by it. The comment is on a Youtube video I uploaded yesterday. As painful as it is to read accusations for “what I didn’t say”, I read the comment number of times. I came to understand that the person twisted my word without trying to understand what I am trying to share throughout Sashiko.
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I have a favor. Please let me know if you have felt that my writing contains a misogynistic mindset. In practicing Sashiko, throughout many kinds of experience, my pre-set “male supremacy” is gone (I admit that Japan is underdeveloped in male-supremacy issues & just 30 years ago, it was much worse). To understand more about my emotion, please check the YouTube video & comment. https://youtu.be/PaSU6dFLnPM
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Also, I would like to share my wrath on it. Since I am aware of my English level & the character of contents, I am very careful in what I write. I choose words for specific purposes. Cutting my phrase off and using it triggers their issue, then accusing me for what I didn’t say is just beyond my capacity. I mention “Sashiko gathering” as a safe place to complain for the Sashiko stitchers. When you read some of my writing, it is so obvious that my goal is to make a “place” for those people. The comment sliced the “Women complaining” as me defining “Women are more like complaining”. WTF.
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I have a Live Streaming tomorrow. I am sorry but I cannot find other topics to talk about. Please do not come if you wanna hear my sweet talk. It will be somewhat dirty. (For those who help to create a safe place to explain, I updated the post. Please check the Patreon).
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続けていると不思議なこともあるもので、初めて「（貴方は）女性を軽視している」とコメントが。Youtubeでの英語版へのコメントだったので、長いコメントと自分が書いたことを時間をかけて比べたのですが、ここまで、「切り取られた言葉で、全く関係のないことを責められる」と、怒りを超えて笑えてきます。ちょうど明日配信できそうなので、そこで話をしますね。「安心して愚痴れる場所が刺し子の集まり」という言葉に対して、「女性は愚痴る生き物だとはどういうことだ」というのは、一言でその結論に辿り着くコメントを書く側が、女性軽視なんじゃないかなと思うのですけどね。
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2020-09-03 16:02:47
The commenter interpreted your remark as saying women complain more. But from what I read, you didn’t identify the stitchers as women.
I love your wrath. 🔥🔥🔥 And your English is fine. The only people who have a problem with it are MAKING it a problem
I have not been following you for long, but I will say that I always feel ‘informed’ by your essays. I appreciate that.
Don’t worry about some people.Most of us love the way you ‘re teaching us SASHIKO 😊
I’ve never thought your posts were sexist or misogynistic. In fact, just reading your photo captions – it isn’t immediately obvious if you’re a man or a woman because you use very little gendered language. This complaint doesn’t make any sense.
Sorry this happened to you.
I found the women complaining line funny, cuz what happens when you get a lot of women in one place in patriarchal cultures? We complain and gossip. That’s just what we do. It was a true statement.
This is American Racism as performed by women. You can ignore the actual content about sexism because it’s just camouflage for her racism. Also I left her a comment. Please ban her!
If you post things on the net, even with nuance and carefulness, you will always get troubles with some people – so don’t give up and please, continue to write about sashiko and other things, and let the not nice things just fall on the ground – you can’t please everyone, but you have many people here who like what you write and the discussions – 😉
I took a class with you at the Japan society in NYC last year, your energy was incredibly open and honest and real. The one phrase that stuck with me was that your sashiko would be your own, to not focus on perfection but on your rhythm. I feel like someone getting caught on one comment, is someone getting caught on one stitch. A quilting circle, a book club, a stitch and bitch, is meant to create a bunch of stitches, to make the whole. if you don’t feel comfortable in one circle, find another. There are plenty of “censored safe places” these days, that actually make me uncomfortable. Please continue sharing your journey and knowledge. It is a deep, historic well.
Your comments are not sexist. I totally understand that you want the tradition of sashiko to be respected and not exploited. I am Hawaiian so we experience the same thing with our culture. BUT sometimes when i read your comments , it takes the joy out of the beautiful art of sashiko. I follow you to learn and admire your skill at sashiko. Life is tough enough these days so we don’t need anger. We need happiness in creating something that brings joy. Be happy. You are a great artist.
@sashi.co Please, don’t forget, others are not as careful with thier words and don’t know the power and effect their words have on others. Do not give this user’s comment weight, as I don’t believe they fully did either. They made a judgement, without any further information or evidence as to whether or not it was the truth. If that is not the truth, you know that, and forget them. Don’t let them steal your happiness and health. I appreciate your attention to the words you choose. I have noticed most native English speakers do not do this, since we can speak without mentally thinking, we also tend to speak without emotionally thinking. The power of ours word is not considered. I just wanted to tell you to please not let this bother you any further. This is not worth your worry, or your health. You are very talented and have shared your culture, time, and artistic gifts with many who appreciate this. You have inspired me, and other people around the world, to be more creative. So thank you for that.
I listened to your video. I don’t think you said anything sexist. There wasn’t anything untrue about that. Everyone gets together and vents about things – at the time therapy wasn’t exactly accessible, it was important for everyone’s mental health. It still is, it’s just moved to social media instead of social circles. Everyone did it, it just happens that women were doing sashiko, which is what you were talking about. Maybe they interpreted as you making a joke (since that is a common sexist joke here in the US, that women just like to complain about things), and that’s what got lost in translation.
I listened to your video. I don’t think you said anything sexist. There wasn’t anything untrue about that. Everyone gets together and vents about things – at the time therapy wasn’t exactly accessible, it was important for everyone’s mental health. It still is, it’s just moved to social media instead of social circles. Everyone did it, it just happens that women were doing sashiko, which is what you were talking about. Maybe they interpreted as you making a joke (since that is a common sexist joke here in the US, that women just like to complain about things), and that’s what got lost in translation.