[I found a SNS post introducing a new word “Sashiko” to describe Decorative Mending. I shall use “Sashiko” as it’s much easier.]
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This is an example of how a (foreign) word is consumed for someone’s convenience and profit. It is sad, but this is how it is today. I am probably doing similar things to other words without realizing it. Therefore, though I won’t say “It is okay”, I understand how others happen to use the word “Sashiko” for their own convenience. I don’t question to a person who is just using the word Sashiko innocently – because it happens. However, it becomes a completely different story when they hear someone’s voice saying [the usage is incorrect/insufficient]. If someone is suffering because of the words I use insufficiently, I will pause, then listen to the message. In this account, the previous comment was not only ignoring the message but also “advising” me to correct my approach to the issue. As I learned from many people in the past, this is based on the “Colonizing” Mindset. This type of “advice”, saying [Remove Barrier] is a way to suppress the inconvenient voice from the origin. This is how the culture is erased by “bigger” voices (here, English) – and this escalates because of “Teachers” who think they know enough to teach.
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I ignore “trolls’ ‘ as it isn’t healthy to engage. Well. This type of comment is worse than trolling to me because “they think they know more”. – specifically speaking about Sashiko, I can assure I know more than they know. Therefore I have to speak up. No matter how much cost I have to pay, how painful it is, I need to keep speaking up.
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We may hurt someone unintentionally. When we hear agonizing voice, we should simply listen to, pause what we say (insist), and hopefully change something. Never, ever question their pain, or even offer “advice” to change how they feel the pain – because it may be us who are creating the pain. No need to agree with everything, but there is a HUGE gap between being different & being Ignorance – this was one significant example of Ignorance.
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Some analogies came up to my mind. I plan to share them in Live Streaming tonight.
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また長くなりました。詳しくは明日、金曜日の配信で説明します！
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2023-07-20 23:14:46
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good message, this is no longer a tolerant world any more-with many wanting themselves to be always dominant and right-I have learned to ignore these people for my own well being and survival really.
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So well put.
I am taking your course on Domestika and learning so much. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and heritage, even when it is difficult.
海外在住です、残念ながら仰ることは痛いほど分かります。
だからこそ、日本の品格、芸術、手に職を持つ素晴らしさを拝見させて頂いて日本人で良かったと毎日感じられる投稿に感謝してます🙏これからも応援してます！
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The Actual Message:
Sashiko is the first and only word that most of those people have to describe the practice of decorative mending.
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Instead of linguistic gatekeeping, lets engage in linguistic expansion. Provide and promote the words that people are looking for. Stoke people’s enthusiasm.
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“OMG look at this sashiko I found on pinterest! This would be perfect for my favorite pants.”
“Isn’t it great? I think you will do so well and enjoy the process. FYI decorative mending is the general, accurate term for what you want. But totally look up Sashiko, it’s amazing.”
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Have I better conveyed the point this time? Call off the jihad, it’s counterproductive.
“…the inconvient voice from the origin” is exactly what people don’t want to hear. It is one of the best ways I’ve heard to describe much of what contributes to the colonizing mindset you are describing. Thank you for your continuing discussion of this.
世の中には色んな人がいるんですね。言葉の中にリスペクトも配慮も無い、他人の家に土足(しかも多分泥付き)で平気で上がってきて歩き回って家の人に不快感と憤りを残していくような人。こういう人には言っても自分の都合で靴脱がないし相手との妥協点というか理解し合えるポイントさえ探そうとしない。でも逆のことされると文句言うんだよね。
大袈裟にならなくてもいいから少しのリスペクトと相手を理解しようとする気持ちが欲しいです。その人のところに行くのなら。
Have you ever heard the concept of the “Lucky Ten Thousand”? (from @xkcd https://xkcd.com/1053/)
Even for very simple things that most people know, we do not make others feel bad for not knowing. That will discourage them from being open and seeking to learn in the future.
Additionally, if the subject is one we are passionate about, it is a wonderful opportunity to share that excitement with another person. Today, they are one of the lucky 10,000 to learn something amazing.
This is the core of my concern. This is what I *desperately* want you to understand.
仰る通り「靴を脱がないままで、靴を脱がないことの正当性を主張するために論点をずらす」ことをしてきてますね。流石に論点ずらしに付き合うほどの時間はないので、最後に「お願い」をしてきました。
こういう人、世の中にはいるんです。そして一番僕が嫌いなタイプです。「自分は正しい。だから教えてやる。そうすれば苦しくなくなる」と、自分の言葉や態度を疑うことなく押し付けてくる人です。自分がまともなことを言っていると思い込んでいるのが一番致命的。
既にスパム化しつつあるので、これ以降はブロックかなーとは思っています。ほんと酷いのに巻き込まれてしまいました。
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