I know I am NOT alone in this… but “Feeling Alone” is an emotion I cannot control. I have been stitching intensively to balance myself from the pain. However… there are so many “freedom (of choice)” asking for the answers. They shout out for the freedom to get ruled, and those who offer the simplified rules to “satisfy” their instant gratification get louder voice. There are so many “Fun” or (Art, Creativity, and even Happiness) over someone’s pain – which cause massive emotional labor. For them, my voice is merely a noise because it ruins their “balance” (even if their balance is made from someone’s chaos). We as human beings start realizing this sad issue – “A balance based on someone’s unbalance” while Globalization. Isn’t it part of sustainability we care for? Does this only apply to physical labor or materials as “Fair Trade”? How about this passive suppression by ignorance in emotion & culture?
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This account became a rather safe & peaceful place in comparison to the battlefield I had to fight a few years ago. However, it doesn’t mean that the issues are solved or gone. They are a quite big group of people who “decided” to ignore what they do not want to accept. They don’t come here, but what they do is the same: “Having Fun over Someone’s Pain”. I can only speak for Sashiko, but I believe a similar thing is happening somewhere at some point. I rarely ask this… because my biggest request here is “acknowledging what Sashiko can be”. However, if you can, please help me to spread my stories. It isn’t easy because they only accept what they want to accept – and they always win because “freedom” is the fundamental value. Therefore, my goal is to NOT win (change them). I just do not want to “lose” the Sashiko we have been practicing. Please help me to protect Sashiko, especially if you like it as a “Japanese Ordinary”.
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SNSで思いを発信するようになって5年程経ちました。熱量は違えど、伝えたいことは一貫していると思います。伝えていることは一緒でも頂く反応は毎回違っていて、それでも最近は数年前が信じられない程の静かなアカウントになっています（昔は批判や誹謗中傷が結構ありまして）。ただ、私の「刺し子に対する思い」が伝わった結果ではなく、「あの人は関わると面倒だから」と言う意図的な無視によるものだと感じることが増えました。だからなのか、時にガツンと苦しくなることがあるのです。一人ではないのは分かっているのですが、やっぱり苦しくなる。少し明日の配信は愚痴っぽくなってしまうかもしれません。ご容赦ください。
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2022-08-11 20:48:43
Very confusing post. I found it had to follow and i don’t know what your point here is.
I talk about you whenever I talk about sashiko and I’m always delighted to introduce someone new to your stories and work
You are always the first person who comes to my mind anytime someone mentions sashiko, or if I bring it up. I am more than happy to spread your account with what little reach I have.
英語ながいなぁー。愚痴配信おまちしております。聞くことしかできませんが。
Your stories are a main reason why I continue to pursue Sashiko with you. Your stories embody many things – history, culture, philosophy, human nature – good and bad — so I learn all of this while learning to stitch.
I share what I know of your stories in casual conversation with others who are not stitchers or makers or crafters or artists. Imo your stories are bigger than a stitch and so your stories appeal to a broad group. Perhaps a downside to my approach is that my conversations about Sashiko never touch on comparisons, completeness or suffieciency of Sashiko as practiced by others. Your Sashiko, your stories.
Imo, your Sashiko is complete and sufficient without my having to compare it to others who present Sashiko simply as an embroidery stitch option. So, maybe you could consider ways to also turn things upside down in order to spread your Sashiko stories more widely — e.g., instead of starting primarily with stitchers to spread Sashiko’ stories – you might continue that, of course, but also consider possible ways of starting with a broader group to spread Sashiko stories that of course include Sashiko stitching.
In a way, maybe try to untether yourself from “other” Sashiko — it is very difficult to “compare and contrast” anything or anyone without someone somewhere with a big voice rightly or wrongly ‘hearing’ an implicit criticism — and then the conversation inevitably seems to heat up and focus on the alleged ‘criticism’ and often the alleged ‘criticizer’ as well. Just some thoughts.
You are building your path in an honest, diligent and openminded way and deserve much praise, respect and admiration.
思いが伝わった訳ではなく意図的な無視、、悲しいですね😢